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Change is Good

Posted By Dwayne McKean, Executive Director, Saturday, June 30, 2018


Unexpected change.  Isn’t that the the worst kind?  You don’t know it’s coming, you’re given little time to prepare, and suddenly you’re in the middle of it.

A few weeks ago I found myself in the middle of one of those unexpected changes.  After almost twelve years of service to Fellowship and working with me my AA resigned.  NO!  As if that change was not enough with her resignation came word I would not be allowed to replace her.  NO!  PLEASE NO!

Needless to say my emotions were everywhere.  I was losing a really good friend, an outstanding AA, and trying to reconcile how I would absorb her contributions.  Honestly, it was overwhelming.  I was very accepting of one why but could not make sense of the other why.  I still can’t.  However, my joy moving forward is up to me, not a change thrust upon me.

Change is often intimidating because we become very comfortable in the same.  The same can be done very successfully.  I humbly feel I (we) were very successful.  As successful as the same can be it can also be limiting when you become complacent in it.  Had I become complacent and too relaxed in my success?  YES!  Could I (we) be even more successful by embracing the challenge of positive change?  YES!  OH YES!  

I lost my AA and I lost my AA.  Things are not the same.  Some of my processes are different.  I have added tasks.  My demands are greater.  I am in the middle of change but I will not let it steel my joy by being intimidated by it.  Instead I will become intimidating in how I embrace and implement it.      

R Buckminster Fuller said “You never change things by fighting the existing reality.  To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

My existing model was a success but I am working to make it obsolete.  Change is good!

Dwayne

Tags:  change  coworkers  employees  loss  work 

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He’s the Mountain

Posted By Dwayne McKean, Executive Director, Saturday, June 23, 2018

I did something this year following our annual national conference I have never done, I took a week off.  I did so for the purpose of relaxing and not being needed by anyone for anything.  Not being needed, for a whole week, that would be refreshing.

On the Saturday morning following the conference I pulled into a gas station and struck up a conversation with the person pumping next to me.  As I told him where I had just been and why he began to tear up.  He shared a little about what was happening in his life and how he was on a journey to once again allow Jesus to be lord of his life.  He shared his struggles in doing so and asked if I would keep him in my prayers.  I did better than that, I asked him to join me in a prayer then and there.

A few days earlier in our board meeting I made mention of our conference being a “mountain top experience.”  Specifically, I referred to getting back into a normal routine and not having the mountain top experience affect a long term decision I was wrestling with.

As I drove away from the gas station that morning God reminded me that what I had experienced in Orlando was indeed very rewarding but it was not the experience I thought it was.  When I was hoping to not be needed I met a man who needed me to pray with him.  I met a man who needed me to show him Jesus.

Following what I thought was a great climb up a mountain God showed me that the true mountain was being loved by Him and having His son Jesus as lord of my life.  I am loved by God and because of Jesus I have the promise of life eternal.  Wow!  That is the true mountain top experience, an experience that lasts far more than a week, it last a eternity.

Thank you God for showing me there is a world who needs me daily to love them as Christ loves me, and that’s OK.  Thank you for showing me you are my mountain.

Dwayne

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What a Holiday Storm Brought

Posted By Dwayne McKean, Executive Director, Monday, June 4, 2018
Updated: Saturday, June 23, 2018

 

At approximately 4:30 a.m. Saturday (this morning) a storm moved through Roswell, Georgia.  4:30 a.m. on a Saturday of a long Memorial Day weekend that includes Monday off.  Backing up a bit it started with my usual Friday off, and although Sunday services are mixed in I had started a facility managers dream, a long holiday weekend that includes Friday and Monday off.  What high hopes and plans I had.  Notice I said had.  As happens so often for the church facility manager when hopes are high duty some how manages to call.

When the storm moved through it did so with a bulls eye on the pole feeding power to Fellowship.  Single phase was the end result.  The call came in at 6:15 a.m. and what promised to be a Saturday of other plans became a Saturday of work.

Single phasing can be an uneasy thought.  As my staff member was describing what he found upon opening I knew immediately what had happened.  The last time we single phased I lost my chilled water pumps.  All I could think about driving to the church is how I was going to get water pumps replaced on a Saturday of a holiday weekend for church the next morning.  Then I thought about the 72 air handlers I have and wondered how many fan motors I might have lost.  I then thought …  You know the drill.

Just before arriving at the church a thought hit me that my hurry to hit the road while assessing the negative possibilities had kept me from considering.  Nothing is on at 4:30 a.m. at Fellowship.  I began to have hope.

To make what is getting to be a long story short although I spent a full day waiting on the power company to decide it was our turn at 6:20 p.m. all of my mechanicals came on and all I had to do to make it so was hit a few reset switches.  My hope sprung eternal.  Eternal as in God!

God went before Fellowship and as He often does He saved the day, or long holiday weekend.  He did so even though my first thoughts were of the worst and not of what He can do.

What started as an interruption to my plans for a holiday weekend turned into an entire day of working with my staff with no one or thing or meeting to pull me away.  We had so much fun.  Wait!  Did God use a single phase to teach me my first thoughts should be of Him and at the same time give me an opportunity to work along side my staff for a full day?

I can’t wait to see what the next storm brings.

Dwayne

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Just Say Thank You

Posted By Dwayne McKean, Executive Director, Friday, May 18, 2018
Updated: Saturday, June 23, 2018

 

Honestly, I don’t believe there are two more valuable words in any language when combined that mean more than “Thank You.”

Saying thank you is the ultimate expression of appreciation without throwing in a bunch of overused adjectives.  Saying thank you says to the recipient their effort mattered to you.

Most of the time saying thank you comes easy as the result of an effort made benefits us in some way.  In those easy moments saying thank you should be an automatic reaction.  But…

What about times when we don’t benefit?  Those moments may not be quite as easy or automatic.

Saying thank you should not be result oriented but effort oriented.  It can be hard to want to say thank

Honestly, I don’t believe there are two more valuable words in any language when combined that mean more than “Thank You.”

Saying thank you is the ultimate expression of appreciation without throwing in a bunch of overused adjectives.  Saying thank you says to the recipient their effort mattered to you.

Most of the time saying thank you comes easy as the result of an effort made benefits us in some way.  In those easy moments saying thank you should be an automatic reaction.  But…

What about times when we don’t benefit?  Those moments may not be quite as easy or automatic.

Saying thank you should not be result oriented but effort oriented.  It can be hard to want to say thank you when you receive no immediate benefit.  Limiting thank you to benefits only misses the point.

Lest you thank I am lecturing and calling you out you should know I had the concept said to me a good while back, and I needed to hear it.  Shortly after I had the sentiment driven home by an episode of “MASH.”  In the episode Major Houlihan lost her wedding ring and Hawkeye and BJ replaced it with a copy.  Major Houlihan thought for sure they were trying to have fun with her.  She was corrected by Klinger who told her they just simply wanted her to have her ring back and she should appreciate the effort.  She did, and even stated she liked the copy better, no doubt because of the effort.  That stuck with me.

Thank you is about the effort and not so much the result.

As easy or hard as it may be try thank you often.

Dwayne

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End of Day Reflections

Posted By Dwayne McKean, Executive Director, Thursday, May 10, 2018

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


As I was sitting on my porch last night watching the sun set I reflected on my day that was.  While much happened the highlight of my day was three conversations I had with friends, NACFM friends.

In the conversations we caught up a little, we laughed a little, we encouraged each other a little, and we…

I reflected on how much those friendships mean to me.  Years back I met each of them not knowing what time as friends would bring.  I know now that they are friends I thank God for.

They are friends I can tell anything to.  They are friends I care deeply for.  They are friends I celebrate with and hurt with.  They are friends I pray with and for.  They are friends who do the same for me.

My NACFM friends are kindred spirits as well.  They do what I do.  They know what an average day is like for me.  They know the challenges I face.  They know what’s it’s like to be on call 24/7.  They share the struggle of the juggle (balance family with work).  They are me.  

I can’t place a value on someone who gets me and loves me and shares life with me.  For that I just do not have the words.  I can however place a value on how I came to know them, through the NACFM.  I have so much I am thankful for as a member of the NACFM but there is no question the greatest value I get from being an active member are friendships, lifelong!

You need a someone to talk to and laugh with, someone to confide in, someone to hurt with you, or someone to pray with you?  Look to your friends of the NACFM.

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